Every human being is a social animal. He craves for love and companionship. We may not realize or agree it when we think about it, but when you are left alone in the path of life, you realize that all successes, or all that you achieved does not make you fully happy. Family, relatives, friends, colleagues, life partner etc. Every person needs these, at least any one of them for survival. But the intricacies of the mind leaves us confused regarding all these relations and their meaning and essence in our life. All are different and plays a different role. Human beings are not so lucky to obtain all the relations in one person itself. The levels of importance and impact which these relations have on our life is distinguished by an unknown or undefined line of identification. But as always, this line is not clear or cannot be properly defined.

In this society, we consider family as the most important and is considered as the nucleus of which we are part of. Then there are the relatives, close friends, colleagues and acquaintances in that order. Even in Orkut, you can find the categorization of the same for the friends list. But recently when I tried to do the same, I got confused. There are friends who I have not met, but still are my good friends. There are people whom I know very well, but I seldom talk to them, just like an acquaintance. The same applies for relatives too. There maybe some distant distant relatives who may be integral part of family, but for us, they are just acquaintance. Then there are friends or colleagues to whom we reveal more than what we say to the family. All these complications therefore I feel is based on the dependency factor which becomes crucial in deciding the line of identification. More than blood or water or whatever which decides the thickness, I guess this dependency is what makes the relation thicker or thinner. But to make matters complicated while resolving them, this dependency factor is never constant. It keeps on changing over time, based on availability. But it keeps matters simple and plain, there by supporting the undefined and unnamed relations prevailing in the society.
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Another valentine’s day got over.. It was very recently that this day got this much recognition and people started celebrating one special day to celebrate love. All the youngsters now look forward to this day with very high hopes n dreams. I agree lots of people, including myself are a part of them.

Many people are against this V-day, saying this is all western culture and that they need not have a special day for revealing their love towards their close ones. Ya, indeed we need not have specific day and time for that, but in our busy schedule and hectic life, where Indians are progressing like the West in living a mechanical life routine, I guess, enjoying and celebrating such days boosts up our private life and our emotional quotient.

And without emotions and feelings, man is not complete. Every one loves and cares for atleast few people if not more, and the different names like care, friendship, crush, infatuation, love, and the different classifications within love like love for parents, love for partner, love for siblings, love for friends and what not! uff! All are gimmicks, atleast that’s what i feel. Each human being has consistent emotions and feelings of his own and that too predefined to certain other beings, be it other human beings or to animals and birds. And its the man who changed the whole perspective and put the limitations or restrictions for loving each other. He created the limits for friendship and love, by defining physical intimacy, but they may have forgot that hugs and touch are the best ways to show care. They have limited the word of love to only the love between lovers. Can’t we celebrate the day for spreading love to parents, friends, sisters, and even neighbours!!

Oh ok, I guess I am too much preaching like Mother Teresa.. But at times, I really feel utmost respect for her, b’coz her preachings of love was so true. It teaches you so many things in life, and its deficiency leads to disaster in day to day life… Only if the whole society accepted the same and started following her principles from the first! What changes would have happened??? Umm.. Well, there wont be any discrimination, blah blah…those are too general.. leave it there. Then there wont be any misunderstandings between friendships and love. Though i agree some limits is needed btw boys and girls, many people put too much restrictions to even frienships between them. When there can be many beautiful relations arising out, the society turns them out to some thing else! All people need solace and are dependent on each other. And i guess that’s where love evolves…

So let’s hope this V-day refreshes the love we have for each other just like a new year presents us with new opportunities and refreshes our responsibilities..

And regarding you people’s doubt, (;-)) no, i have no valentine as of now, but for me, I love my parents, sis and all my friends(online and real)!!! Thats more than enough for me to enjoy the day!